These days it is very easy to keep lamenting and complaining about the hard times that have befallen the people of our country Nigeria. But truly we should make every effort not to do this because it has no positive outcome.

On some of the social media platforms that I belong to, it is not uncommon within a twenty-four hour day, to have members criticising and going on about everything the government of the day is doing wrong, for more than eight hours of the day. This is not the best approach.

The truth is that in Nigeria today, good things are happening. But it seems that people just prefer to pay more attention to and magnify what is not going on well. Some young girls from my alma mater (Federal Government Girls College, Sagamu) built an AI robot – Kiki Saggy (Okikiola Sagamu)  which has attracted international attention. Tech start ups are getting funding to the tune of millions of dollars. These are Nigerians. They are not operating in a different terrain or location. Some people are working and trying their best to make ends meet. Personally, as soon as fuel prices went up earlier in the year, I knew that I could no longer continue on one income stream and so I went back to my catering business that I had abandoned since COVID. It was better for me to do that than join the complaining conversation that was going nowhere.

What are we watching, reading or listening to? What we pay attention to, what we spend our time doing is what will dominate our minds. Time spent on social media can be spent doing more productive and constructive things if our sources of livelihood are not directly linked to social media. In that case, social media is just a form of entertainment or amusement. Should we then be entertaining or amusing ourselves for hours on end?

This is what the word of God says: “For we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies. Now such persons we command  and encourage in the Lord Jesus Christ to do their work quietly and to earn their own living.” 2 Thessalonians 3: 11-12 English Standard Version

Hear again what the scriptures say: “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” Proverbs 14:23 NIV  The word of God encourages us to work and stay away  from idleness and talking too much.

“Now the people complained about their hardships in the hearing of the LORD, and when he heard them his anger was aroused. Then fire from the LORD burned among them and consumed some of the outskirts of the town.” Numbers 11:1 NIV

The LORD does not like it when we complain. When we complain, we are simply being ungrateful to God. Let us desist from this practice and habit of complaining.

A sister of mine (YS) said as believers we must watch what we watch. This is so very true. Whatever we give the most attention to is what will eventually occupy our subconscious states. We cannot carry on in the conversation that is constantly complaining about everything and expect to have any kind of joy.

The ripple effect of complaining ends in disaster. People who complain are angry, grouchy, moody and might become abusive and violent.

If you are someone who is complaining about everything, please stop it. Get busy doing something. Spend less time on social media. Things are magnified out of proportion there and that will only make you feel worse.

Let us sit down and seriously look inwards. This terrain is a goldmine of opportunities. Do not let an opportunity pass you by.  It is time to start working. And even if you think you should be winding down, or you are approaching retirement, or you are just trying to transition into something new, there is something known as a “Lifestyle Business” for more information on how to start a lifestyle business please contact Oluyinka Ego-Martins on

Complaining is extremely toxic.